Life can be full of ups and downs. Highs and lows, good days and hard days. That applies to marriage as well! There are days where things are awesome- you communicate well, you're really feeling it, and it's a good day. And then there are days that are hard- miscommunication happens, you snap at each other, and it's just a hard day.
One key that we have found that helps us through the good and the hard days is something simple, yet incredibly powerful. Prayer.
Since Zach and I started dating, we made prayer together a priority. When we were dating, it was usually before we went our separate ways for the day or the night. After we got married, we made it a habit to pray together before we went to bed every night. We also ask each other regularly how we can be praying for each other throughout the day while we are at work.
Something that I am incredibly thankful for in Zach is his intentionality with prayer when we are experiencing conflict or miscommunication. He has been such a great positive force in our marriage for leading us in prayer during those difficult times.
The days where we just feel "blah," or we feel off, or we are experiencing miscommunication or frustration, we bring it before the Lord and lay it at his feet. I can tell you that it is incredibly freeing. It brings such a great amount of peace, and resolution. It helps us start over and get off on the right foot, no matter what had happened before that point.
I can't tell you how many times we're sitting on the couch, or in the car, and I'm just in tears, frustrated at myself, and Zach leads us in prayer, and the peace just covers us completely. It helps us lay down our burdens, and realize that we are not fighting each other, we need to fight for each other and fight against the enemy.
When we join together in prayer, it's a powerful force.
I want to encourage you, whether you are married or not, when you are feeling frustrations, if you are experiencing miscommunication, or just having a hard day, bring it to the Lord. If you are married, humble yourself and bring it to the Lord together.
Start off with something simple, ask your spouse what you can pray for them for during the day. Send them a text and let them know you are praying for them.
Then make it a goal to try and pray together, maybe it works best for you in the morning before you both leave for work for the day, or maybe it works best for you at night, like with Zach and I and you want to close out the day in prayer together.
Whatever the case, I challenge you to get out of your comfort zone and ask your spouse how you can pray for them today!
How do you and your spouse connect through prayer?